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Your Words Matter

In astrology, this is a number 1 year, which means that it is the perfect year to manifest exactly what you want in life, it also comes with a responsibility.  That responsibility is completely up to you if you want to exercise it or not, but what it entails is setting positive intentions and actions in the beginning of this month.  You see, everything that you say and do this month will lay the groundwork for the next 9 YEARS!!!  Yes, 9 years!  So, if you want to manifest abundance or big changes in your life, may I suggest starting with positive intentions.

The other side of that coin is that the intentions must be coupled with actions and the more positive the better.  At the end of the day remember, we all have a choice in the words that we use and the tone of how we say those words.  Recently, in an atmosphere that is far removed from the office, I have been hearing and seeing very negative words from those around me.  But it’s not only the words that bother me – it’s the cumulative EFFECT that the words have had on another person.  The words have been so harsh, that they have stolen a large part of someone’s confidence and courage.  You know, the thing that we all work on most of our lives so that others can’t tear us down easily.

In this instance, the confidence is in an area that the young woman has been working on to BE confident in for quite a while.  The crazy thing about the situation is that she IS very competent in this certain area. However, an adult (who should have know better), set out to destroy and undermine everything that the young woman has been working so hard to build up.  The circumstances and atmosphere are not important because it could have happened anywhere to anyone reading this.

Whether you know it or not, we all have an arsenal that is fully locked and loaded, and is ready to be used at any time and it has nothing to do with nuclear powers.  It comes in the form of words, which can be like razors to anyone’s self-esteem and confidence.  The lesson here would be to exercise caution and really think BEFORE you speak about how your words will be received – and the EFFECT your words will have long after they are spoken.  The more positive we can keep our thoughts, the more positive our intentions and words will be.  If you want to manifest abundance in your life and you strive to help others, let your words be uplifting and positive and your criticism be tolerant leaving room for others to grow.  We are all a work in progress but our capacity for change and movement in the right direction is one of our greatest assets.  I’m all for CHOOSING what I say (or don’t say) and keeping it in a positive light. What about you?  Where can you change your thoughts and move in a new direction?  You never know what effect your your words will have and how they may help someone along the way.

How To Have Confidence Being Visible Even If Your Not Self Assured

CONFIDENCE EVEN IF YOUR NOT SELF ASSUREDToday’s topic is about CONFIDENCE.  Confidence comes from a place of: I learned a lesson and I am offering that knowledge to you, so that you don’t have to struggle like I did. Simple and effective.

Most of us have amazing ideas around what we want to say to our potential clients.  We lay out where and when we will post but sometimes we can get nervous around the thought of putting ourselves out there.  I’m referring to the thoughts of “Will what I have to say be good enough for them to listen and understand my message?  Is my message good enough?”

You have to trust that what you have been through and the lessons you have learned ARE GOOD ENOUGH TO HELP OTHERS. There is no better voice for one to hear than from an expert who has been in that same situation beforehand and has overcome the problem your clients are currently facing.

You don’t have to have it all figured out (no one does).  You don’t need the perfect answer (no one has that either).  What you DO have are the lessons you’ve learned and you only need to be two steps ahead of your client to help them.  Trust that everything you have learned up until this point has been for a reason – to help not only yourself but others as well.  So many times we can get stuck in what “perfect” looks like in our heads but here is something you may not have thought of:   Your lovely clients are all at different places in their business and development of their goals.

PRACTICAL STEPS TO HAVE CONFIDENCE:

  1.  Think of your WHY.  Whenever I get nervous about stepping out or overwhelmed around which topic I should talk about – remember your client.  What are they struggling with and how can you help them? How can you give so much value that they will say “WOW, I am so happy I found this – finally someone understands where I am and how I can move forward.”
  2. Keep it simple.  Choose one topic at a time to write about and always meet them where they are.
  3. Small consistent steps are better than not stepping out at all.  Your potential clients need to see you online consistently.  It is not always a long post that garners the most attention, sometimes it can be just a couple of heart-felt paragraphs to get others engaged.
  4. KEEP THE FAITH.  It WILL feel like you are exposed, it will feel like you are not always doing it right but trust yourself and trust that there are people who need the information you have.  In fact they are desperate to hear it.  They are craving someone meet them where they are and show them how to effortlessly move through their problem – and you can, especially since you have done it before.

My Personal Example:  I am riding my horse near water and for those that don’t know, some horses act like a small puddle is as huge as the Atlantic Ocean.  They will jump aside, jig and get very nervous making the rider nervous in turn.  How do you handle that type of situation if you have never come across it before? Simple – you get a Trainer or trusted expert who HAS gone through the same scenario and learned from it.  I had a very good friend, trusted and experienced rider who coached me through the process which gave me two extremely valuable pieces of information: confidence and the ability to move through the situation easily SINCE SHE HAD BEEN THERE BEFORE AND KNEW WHAT TO DO TO HELP ME WORK THROUGH IT.  Now I can help you through it – (if you need a riding buddy let me know!:)

My point – what you have learned is valuable and absolutely does have the ability to help others.  I would love to hear your thoughts around confidence.  Please join my FB group to continue the conversation at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/578977005589932/

 

 

 

 

You Have Everything You Need…

Quill ink pot and writing paperI was doing some thinking over the weekend and have been noticing how many of us have been struggling.  Struggling to get more clients, make more money, lose weight or just better ourselves either personally or professionally.  One of the most important tools I can offer to you is this:  YOU HAVE EVERYTHING YOU NEED INSIDE OF YOU RIGHT NOW! 

You were created as an infinite being (even if you don’t feel like one all the time) and you are BUILT TO LAST.  More importantly you have been designed to make a positive impact on others.  Everyone wants to stand out and change the World, no matter what career you have or where you are in that process.  Sometimes we can get bogged down with negative experiences and emotions and that is when your mind may send you old images and situations where you were not successful.  You may look at these experiences as negative but I’d like you to think about what you learned from that trying time.

“What was the golden nugget that you got out of a difficult time in your life?  How can you incorporate that wisdom and pay it forward to others?”

I always thought that some of the negative experiences were there because God or Source was mad at me.  Maybe I had done something wrong and was being punished because I couldn’t figure out why I was going through something that was very difficult.  However after some reflection, I had a huge AH-HA moment where I learned that nothing you go through is for naught.  There is always wisdom attached to each experience we have.  For example, if I had not had the experience of being let go when my Company was down sized, I would never have known what that looked and felt like.  Without pushing through that experience, I would not truly understand where my clients are coming from when they have told me that they too have been let go.

You were designed to not only withstand but excel and move through very trying times. 

Those experiences will make you stronger and will give you a light into another’s consciousness that you would not have had otherwise.  If you truly think about it, almost all of your wisdom comes from powerful experiences that could have been negative at the time – but are positive now.  Even something as simple as burning your finger on the stove when you were young, has turned into a powerful knowledge of “Don’t do that again, the stove is hot” which you can and would impart to your children.

EXERCISE:  Please take out a sheet of paper and draw a line down the center so you have two columns.  At the top of the column on the left write “Negative Experience” and at the top of the right column write “Wisdom I Received”.  Then I’d like you to think about and list out the “negative” situations you have had in your life.  (They can even include a death of a parent or other family member because even though this is a very tough circumstance, you will still get some positive information from that time).

After you have listed out all the NEGATIVES I want you to go to the right side of the page and list out all the WISDOM you have learned as a direct result of those times.  You may be very surprised at how much you have learned and more importantly how you are spreading this positive information on to others.  You are an amazing human being and you have the capacity to help others stop struggling.  Know as you go through the day that you are strong and able to bounce back from anything that life throws at you.

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Click on the link for the 7 Profound Keys To Having The Life You Want.  It’s my free gift to you and has 10 pages of tips and strategies to help you have an abundant life.  I’d love to hear from you, please let me know what wisdom you have received from some of your experiences in the comments below.

To Your Success,

Julie

Obstacles Are Opportunities…

79690-A-Successful-WomanI was meeting with a friend the other day for dinner, someone who is very dear to me but I have not seen her in a year or so.  Every year we try to get together for our birthday’s because they are days from each other.  At first glance she is a wonderful person with a bright smile and loves life.  She has a husband and daughter and she gives anything and everything for her family.  But look a little deeper and you will see that she is a deeply unhappy person.

Some of her obstacles include being in a loveless marriage (the husband has slept on the couch for five years), not working (she has not held a job in over fifteen years) and leaning on her parents for support (both monetary and emotional).  She is someone who loved the past when women only went to College to find a spouse to “take care of them”.  She always and I mean ALWAYS wanted someone to take care of her.  She never had any problem attracting boyfriends and she had her pick when it came to guys who were “off the boat” as we would say which meant they had good families with plenty of money to give their girlfriends everything they wanted.

Now, married fourteen years later with a ten-year old child, pinching pennies every week and living paycheck to paycheck has gotten not only old but transferred to her blaming her husband (who is working) for everything that has “gone wrong” in her life.  The story is as old as the marriage and it basically goes like this:  “You don’t understand my life because you don’t have a kid” and “he will never change, he is not the person who best suits me because he is an underachiever and he will never move forward with his life”.  Arguments ensue and the future does not look pretty however, she will not leave because her mother has told her that “she can’t make it on her own.”

Contrast that to my another very good friend who is now divorced with a sixteen year old who is getting ready to go to college next year.  She divorced her husband (the were College sweethearts) when she her daughter was young.  Her husband had a thriving business but when she needed him the most to help out with their daughter, he chose the business over helping her.  She started her own business, found a place to live by buying a house and fixing it up and now is a successful business women.  No one helped her get to where she is and she did it all to make a better life for not only her but her daughter.

She never cries “Poor Me” and sees the opportunities that all around her for her business and for her daughters future.  Her “story” is that she can do anything and she is successful because she had no other choice.  She knew she had to make things work because she had a child that needed her to be successful – it was a do or die situation.

The only drawback is that she has not found a spouse which means she is lonely but she has done the right thing for her daughter and is still friends with her ex husband which gives the daughter some stability in the family unit.

Do You See The Difference Your Mindset And How You Talk To Yourself Can Make?

In the first scenario there are absolutely no opportunities.  My friend has put her self in a self-imposed prison with iron bars so thick she will never break free.  The most important thing to remember here is that she created it and ONLY SHE CAN DISMANTLE IT – SHE HAS THE KEY yet she refuses to acknowledge her blessings and opportunities.

The second person did not have a great lot in life in the love department however she does have a wonderful child and she sees only opportunities.  She has clawed her way to a wonderful and successful business and she is making great money and MOST IMPORTANTLY DOING WHAT SHE LOVES.  SHE IS SUCCESSFUL BECAUSE SHE TOLD HERSELF SHE WOULD BE AND SHE IS.  Her future is bright and she is FREE to live her best life.

What stories have you been telling yourself lately and have you put yourself into a self-imposed prison?  Or do you see endless possibilities with a lot of blessings in your life.  I hope you see the later because what you see and what you say to yourself truly matters. You are the master of your destiny and ONLY YOU can make yourself happy or sad.  Your decision.  I hope you decide to be happy and see only the best for yourself!

My Best Always,

Jules

WHAT ARE YOUR GIFTS?

A Happy Me!
A Happy Me!

In this day and age where everyone is multitasking and when doing three things at once is the norm, have you ever sat down and taken stock of yourself? Specifically have you ever thought about what it is that makes you unique and what your gifts are? It seems like I always focus on the negative and I am working on changing my thinking and moving my mind to the positive side of the equation. If the Universe really sends us whatever we give out tenfold, then wouldn’t it make sense to put out good thoughts and good ideas instead of confusion, strife, jealousy, envy and unhappiness? I know, I know life gets in the way, but the more I think on this the more I am convinced that successful people may not have a special “gift” but may put out more positivity than the rest of us. Going down the road of comparing yourself to others (especially others who are more stylish, have more wealth etc., feel free to insert whatever you want here) will not make YOU happy and will not cause THEM any strife. However, it may make you jealous, upset about what you don’t have and disappointed about the life you are living. Here is a suggestion that you may want to take to heart…STOP!

Start pumping yourself up with positive mojo and begin to analyze what it is about you that makes you different. Think about all the things you are naturally good at that other people have to work hard at just to get by. For instance, writing has always come very easily to me. I don’t even think about it (too much lol). I just put on paper whatever I am feeling and the trick for me is not to edit myself. If I start to think about “Well how will this sound?” and “Will someone take this the wrong way?” then I will never get my point across or onto the paper. I always say to myself “Just put it down” then we can edit it later. This same mentality can be used when you are looking at your now blank piece of paper which will soon be filled up with all of the fabulous qualities about yourself that you may now only have just begun to recognize as “assets”!

Here are some examples to get you going: Think about what you love to do, how well you do it and how easy it is for you. For instance: Do you love numbers and are you able to quickly and efficiently fix complex math problems that many of us (me!) struggle with for hours? Are you creative? Do you write, draw, journal, paint, make jewelry etc.? Are you great with a hammer and saw or do you have vision for taking a totally blank room with no paint or flooring and see it as a finished product complete with new window treatments and furniture? All of the above are GIFTS! Not everyone has the same gifts and many times we all have more than one (in my case I have a few which has made it hard to decide which one I should work with – but more on that in a later post).
After you have made a list of your gifts then you need to try and match up your profession with your gifts. This sounds easy and it should be a breeze but it’s not. Hence so many people are in jobs they hate and professions they feel completely stifled in. Life is not like the Navy Seals where after you have chosen to get in you need to do this for the rest of your life. If you don’t like where you are then you need to change it. Life is too damn short for you to be unhappy and I know many people have probably told you that in your life and you have not listened. Not because you didn’t hear them but because you think A) Change is hard B) You are tied to your paycheck C) You feel it may be hard to get another job D) You may need to go back to school and that will take time, time you feel you don’t have. I know because I have been where you are for a very long time and it was not until recently that I really decided it’s basically now or never. God showed me two lives and I was at a definite crossroads in mine. One road (Road A) pointed down a path I knew well, a small amount of money to live on (nothing glamorous), but comfort in the job (even though I didn’t like it), hard work and a “good life”. Road B was a road I could not see down – which at first thought was a bad thing. Why would I want to go down a road where I could not see the terrain? It could be rocky, full of potholes and muddy but then again it could be flat and paved with gold? See the difference? Road B is the road that is what you make of it, the road of endless opportunities where you can really make a difference in your life and in other’s lives. Of course there are no guarantees with either road but with Road B there is no comfort level which makes most people very uneasy.

Remember what I said in the very first paragraph? The Universe gives you whatever you put out tenfold? If I can go down Road B and be positive and give myself the opportunity to change and be different why wouldn’t I take that chance? Opportunities offer you a chance to shine but sadly most people are not up for change even if they complain every single day about their wretched job. There comes a time in life, when you are at a crossroads and you have to take a chance. You get tired of the same old, same old and want more from life. I challenge you to take Road B – the road less travelled. Along that journey I also challenge you to look at what gifts you have and start to formulate a plan to begin living the life you were meant to live.

Consider this: When you procrastinate or you don’t fully show up and grasp the life you were meant to live and shine like the amazing being you are supposed to be, you slight everyone you were supposed to help with your light that is now in hiding. All of the lives you were going to touch with your success, your emotions and your essence are now under wraps and everyone and everything you were going to affect will now not have access to that light. Everyone in their heart wants the world to be a better place and I believe that it is our duty to rise up to our fullest capacity so that we can make the positive changes we were put here to make. My goal is step into my power to help others (whether they be two legged or four legged), no matter what your cause is – now is the time to step up and let your light shine. Start to formulate a plan for a better life, you never know who you are going to touch and what kind of positive change you can make in the world.
Let me know what you think and what some of your gifts are.

With love,
Jules