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How Connecting With Your Heart’s Desire Can Change Your Life!

Every day, you and I are bombarded by information – so much so, that many of us are on information overload. We are constantly looking at our phones, seeing news on the TV along with the constant chatter, can become a dull roar as your brain tries to filter out what you need to know, and what you don’t.
According to Business Insider – The latest statistics from Apple say that the average iPhone user unlocks their phone 80 times per day!!! The Android users were confirmed to unlock and use their phone 76 times per day. 
To say that many of us are addicted to our phones is an understatement. But what’s more concerning to me is not the USE of the phone, but what we are actually addicted to which is what’s BEHIND the phone which is – you guessed it – information. Information of any kind including Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and all the other social media that keeps our eyes and ears glued to our phones.
The daily consumption of all of this information has a price and the price is twofold:
  1. The LACK of communication with actual , around you (including those you love) and
  2. A complete DISCONNECT from the most important part of you – your HEART!
I am a big-hearted person, so much so that I am basing my whole career on what my heart is telling me to do – even if it may seem illogical. If you are like me, you may have been going along through life, mildly discontented with your work but keeping up appearances and then WHAM! Something happens that makes you stop everything. It could be a death in the family, a loss of a pet or loss of a job – whatever it is, it’s a loss and not a loss you can ignore.
I recently had a couple of losses, not just one (yes, they can come more than one at a time) and that is when I was FORCED to do the unthinkable – STOP. Just stop and think about where I was going, what I was doing and was I really happy. That’s when I realized that I had lost touch with the most important part of me, my heart. I had lost what made me happy and I had settled for convenience and comfort, because going after what truly made me happy was going to be hard.
They say that all things happen for a reason and instead of dwelling on the losses, I choose to believe that this was something that was meant to happen at this season in my life, and that there is a definite reason that I changed direction.
If you have ever woken up and realized that you hate where you live, you can’t stand your job or boss and you aren’t doing what you really want to do in life – it’s time to STOP and make a change. So many of us have gotten so very far away from where we TRULY WANT TO BE and what we TRULY WANT TO DO. It’s time to turn the ship around (you know – the one that you command called your life) and start steering it towards a place you will be happy.
I for one, am sailing my ship into totally unfamiliar winds, but I know that I am following my heart and intuition both of which are connected to my soul so how can I go wrong? The answer is, I can’t and neither can you. All you have to do is think about what you truly want in your life, they could be things like:
  1. A different job,
  2. Starting your own business,
  3. Living in a different location,
  4. Being with other people (spouse, lover, friends, creating a better network of colleagues etc.)
  5. Going back to school
Anything is possible, you can make changes to every single part of your life or just one slice of it. The only goal is that you are happy.
You don’t want to be that person on your death bed wishing you had done something different when you have the chance right now to make those kind of changes to your life. All you need to do is LISTEN AND FOLLOW YOUR HEART.
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What You Believe Is True… Or Is It?

What you believe shapes your life.  We’ve all heard this, but what I want to ask you today is this, do you BELIEVE that whatever you want to fix (either about yourself or in your life) is NOT AVAILABLE TO YOU?  Do you think that Success or Money or Health or even Happiness is unavailable to you?

You didn’t come into the world thinking that absolute success is not available to you or that absolute love is not available to you.  Somewhere along the way, someone told you or you figured out that money and success is not available to you.  That belief will stay with you and radiate out from you,everything-the-universe-has-is-yours which in turn the Universe will mirror right back to you. Whatever is mirrored to you from the Universe – YOU CAN CONTROL and it all starts with your thoughts and beliefs.

Your thoughts become beliefs, your beliefs shape you and how you act.  They also teach others how to treat you.  Your beliefs shape your inner and outer world.  Why wouldn’t you want to control those beliefs and have them be positive not only for yourself but others in your world?  So how can we change them?  The first step is to notice them. Notice how you speak to yourself, and notice what you say about others.  If you are judgmental, drop it – judging is not a strength but a weakness.  Besides, it’s not your place to judge others (or mine).

So Step #1 is to notice how you speak to yourself and what beliefs you are saying on a consistent basis.  It can be something simple like “I’m not good with money”.  Personally, I have had that one for a long time and for most of my life I have not been good with money. But people change and learn and I am a smart person just as you are.  We are all born with the capacity to evolve and working with money is just like figuring out how your new iphone works.  It can be done, it may take time and even coaching if needed, but in the end it can be done – if you want to achieve it.

The next few posts we will discuss how you can move through the upcoming steps that can change your beliefs which will in turn, change how others and the Universe treat and see you. I help people find their life purpose and I teach them to be brave.  If you need help trying to figure out what your gifts are, please email me and we can chat to see if we are fit for each other.

Are You Doing What You TRULY Want To Do With Your Life?

Happy 2017!!! Whoop Whoop!  I love this time of year because it let’s you (and I) begin anew.  We have a completely clean, fresh slate where we can write down our goals and begin to make our new dreams come true.  In just the last few days, I have been having an inner conflict and I wanted to let you know what’s going on, because I think there may be others who are going through the same thing.

Sometimes we start down a road that we THINK we want, but once we are mid-way on that road, we are unsure if this is the right road for us.  We have all been programmed since we were young to be successful, although everyone’s interpretation of success is different.  Some think large sums of money equals success, and others believe that being with loved ones and making a difference in life equals success. Whatever your thoughts and beliefs are on success are for you to decide – no one else.  Right?  YET...I see so many people not doing what they TRULY want to do in life.  They are not making the contributions they want to make and are SETTLING for a mediocre job, life and even settling for being less than happy.  I want that to change and this is important to me, because for so long I WAS that person.  I was not happy with my life professionally.  I was NOT taking aligned action and I definitely was not doing what was making me happy.  I was doing what was making my family happy.

So I traded my happiness to make them happy, but in the long run that will never work.  I can guarantee you, that if you do what others want you to do, that still small voice inside you will NOT be quiet and your dreams will get bigger not smaller.  Some excuses are:  “Your too far down the road now to make a change” – WRONG!  “Your too old” – WRONG! “You may fail” – That may be true, but you will be doing what you have wanted to do and there is nothing wrong with failing because you will learn what did not work and figure out a better way to try again.  Not to mention all the inner conflict you will have, guilt, shame and frustration because you will always be thinking “I need to try this, I know I would be good at it” and you don’t because you let fear rule your life.  You don’t want to disappoint and being a people pleaser, well, let’s just say that never worked out for me.

What dreams have been coming up for you recently?  What keeps you awake at night?  You know in your heart of hearts that the dream is something you are desperate to make happen because it would make your heart sing – even if you tried and failed, that would be better than living to please others.  Please take my advice and do what you TRULY want to do with your life.  What YOU want to do – no one else. That is why you are here after all and that is why you were created.  To do anything less will not make you happy.

So what dreams are you going to start making happen? What one step could you take today to make that dream in your head a reality?

Speaking in Baseball terms:  Remember, not trying is equivalent to complete failure because you never even tried to hit the ball.  You just sat on the sidelines, longing to play and the ONLY one keeping you on the bleachers is — YOU!   Let’s change that today!

So make the decision to put yourself in the game, on your terms and success and happiness will come to you instead of you chasing it.  PASSION CANNOT be faked.  Your passions and dreams are there for a reason – for you to make them come true.  Can I count on you to start living for YOUR dreams and no one else’s?  Now tell me what your passion or dream is that you want to start working on.  Deal?

Remember, I Believe In You (and your dreams)!


Never Dim Your Shine…

With the full moon that is here tonight and tomorrow night in all of it’s glory, I was specifically told to tell everyone that it’s so important – NOW – for you to send out all of your positive intentions to the Universe.  The Moon is so strong, it is the mastermind for the seas and it often has different effects on people.  The most important part for you to understand is that NOW is the time that you can truly manifest all that you desire.  The full moon is a catalyst to send your dreams and what you desire into action –FAST!

Scenario #1
Scenario #1- Don’t Be So Colorful!!

What does this have to do with Never Dim Your Shine?  A few days ago I got an image in mind of what you see below.  As you can see, there is the Black and White Peacock that is telling the beautiful, Colored Peacock to “Stop being so colorful”.  In other words, make yourself smaller, be black and white, don’t be so “out there!”  This is a hard one for those of us who are CREATIVE or DIFFERENT to swallow.  There have been many times in my life (and yours too I am sure), that I have been told to “Stop it” and “Act like the rest of us!”.  In my opinion, the reason this happens is that people get jealous and they also don’t understand original opinions, art, thoughts etc.  What they don’t understand, they want to not only shut it down but also shut if OFF.  THEY are more comfortable being a sheep, but when you are an Innovator at heart and see things differently than others – what they don’t know is that you can’t stop it.  The amazing thoughts that come into your head are just that – innovative and daring thoughts that can change the World.

I am sure that Steve Jobs was told a million times that his ideas “Could not be done”. Can you imagine being in the room when he came up with an idea of the iPhone.  The language probably went something like this:  “It’s a phone, but it’s also connected to the internet, holds your pictures, allows you to see movies, and it’s a calculator and flashlight too, among many other things”.  The employees must have been thinking “But it’s JUST A PHONE!!!”  Do you see the difference in Mindset?  Yet Steve Jobs KNEW it was much more than that.  It’s innovative and DIFFERENT thoughts like those that can and DO change the World.

Scenario #2 - SHINE ON!!!
Scenario #2 – SHINE ON!!!

The second picture is one of where my thoughts are now and I encourage you to be as well.  It is hard-won and comes with maturity and the KNOWLEDGE that just because you are DIFFERENT, does not mean you are LESS THAN!  It means you are different, but in a MAGICAL way!  Being different is always hard because people don’t understand what you are thinking or how you came up with your “crazy” ideas.  Yet, being different is AMAZING!  It’s what makes you – well, YOU!  It’s what allows you to accomplish the goals and dreams you have set for yourself.  Just like Frodo in the Lord of the Rings – he was the ONLY one who could accomplish the task set before him – no one else was equipped to handle the journey – he was MADE to do that job.  I believe that whatever dream or goal is in your heart right now – you are FULLY EQUIPPED to do.  I believe that no matter how “crazy” it sounds (even to you), or how outrageous or different it may be – it is there for a reason.  For you to ACCOMPLISH THAT TASK!

Next time you are thinking outside the box or daring to do something that may have never been done before – think of the Peacock in the second box and don’t dim your shine or not show your colors for anyone!  After all you are the only one who can wear those colors the best!

I teach Entrepreneurs how to be BRAVE and reach their goals by helping them see their life purpose.  Reach out to me with questions or if you need help hitting a goal and want support along the way.  Remember:  I BELIEVE IN YOU!  Shine On!


The Reason Your WHY Is SO Important!

What is your WHY?  What is the real reason you are getting out of bed and have started this business?  Or why do you want to change your mindset?  WHAT is it you want out of life that you don’t have now?  If you say more money – that is not a good enough reason. The REAL reason you want different things (business, more happiness, better relationships, etc.) is because they will make your life richer.  Some of us have causes that really affect our hearts and we want to change the future and make it better.  Others of us are innovators, who desire to help others stop struggling where we often did for so damn long.  Whatever your reason is – that is your WHY and your WHY is what you need to hang on too when things get tough.

Life can be hard and many days it is a struggle to keep going.  There will be days where you may feel like you are putting out so much of yourself and getting nothing back in return for all of your hard work.  But don’t quit, don’t give up and don’t stop   Keep remembering your WHY and by the way – it’s OK to change direction too.  I have met people who are doing something that their heart is not into and hasn’t been for a very long time.  When I ask them why they are still putting in the work – they say they have tried for so long they don’t want to give in but it really isn’t making their heart sing the way it used too.  That’s when I say – you know what?  It’s perfectly ok to change direction and change your mind.  If you feel called to do something that is different than what you are doing right now (and it can be a small change or a totally different occupation, direction etc) – that is still OK!  This is YOUR LIFE!  You are ALLOWED to change and grow because that is what you are supposed to do.  You are not the same person you were two months ago, or even one year ago.  If you have been doing the same job for 20 years and your making good money but you are bored, tired, not interested in it –CHANGE IT UP! You can veer off and do different things all while keeping your current job – make it a side hustle until it is your full time gig.  But GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO CHANGE – it’s called growth.  Ok that’s my rant.  I just want you all to have the big, beautiful and wonderful life you were born to have.  Thoughts?

P.S. I help people find their true purpose (what makes them happy) and help them understand they can have what they want (by giving them permission to do what lights them up).  Together we work on whatever is holding them back and get rid of it (mindset strategies and tweaks make all the difference in what you can achieve.)  If you need my help to hit a goal – just ONE goal in a short amount of time.  Take a peek at this here

The Art of Saying Yes… And How It Can Change Your Life!

Recently I spent some time with a girl friend who is near and dear to my heart.  She is older than I am, and someone that I can hang with and be my truest self.  This time we were spending ALOT of time (like 9 hours) in the car going to a wake.  These things are never fun, but you need to support your family and partner even when you don’t want to make that type of a drive.  Being in the car that long allows you to really get to know someone and I made a discovery that has been haunting me ever since.

You see, this girl friend is stuck in her ways and not only is she stuck, she doesn’t even know how much happiness she is missing out on.  Worse than that, she is actually TURNING AWAY ALL OF THE OPPORTUNITIES the Universe has for her – and basically saying “HELL NO!” to whatever good stuff comes her way.  Here is how the conversation went.  (Two important items:  1)  She lost her husband 12 years ago which lets you know how much time has gone by – just so you have a backdrop for the story.  2)  She goes to the same vacation island year after year and never deviates or visits any other place on the planet.)

Me:  “Hey, have you ever considered going to another vacation spot?”

She:  “NO!”  Answers very quickly and with authority.

Me:  “Why not, there are so many beautiful places to see?

She:  “No, I like it where I’m at.”

Me:  Umm, ok.”   A little later on as she is going on and on about her late husband – “Have you ever thought about getting to know other people as potential partners?  I mean you are still young and you could live another 40 years.”

She:  “NO!  I’m not interested in sex!  (Really mean and snippy).

Me:  “I didn’t say anything about sex!  I was thinking about companionship.  You know, someone to talk too.  It might be nice to have another person that you could have fun and do things with”.

She:  “NO, he was the one and that is that!” (Pretty much that is that and we will speak no more on this subject you idiot – is the vibe I got).

Me Thinking:  “Okayyy,” and I thought where do I go from here which basically went nowhere.  I just stopped talking.

(To be fair here, I understand that she lost her spouse and I do believe that you only have one true soul mate.  However, you are still here on this planet and living and if you are going to be here for quite a long time, it might be nice to have someone to talk too.)  And that’s the way the trip went.  Not only was she super bossy, more importantly, I really wondered if she was even listening to what she was saying to me.  All of the answers came fast and sharp – like the wicked sharp end of a knife – WITH NO WIGGLE ROOM FOR CHANGE as part of the package.  So, I sat there and thought:  WOW!  She is LITERALLY PUSHING AWAY ALL OF THE ABUNDANCE, WEALTH, OPPORTUNITY, AND WAYS TO MEET AMAZING PEOPLE  AWAY.  She is not just saying No to the Universe – she is saying “HELL NO!”  I want no change in my life.  Are you like this person?  Are you pushing away prosperity that could already be yours if you had only said Yes instead of No?

So many of us are preprogrammed to say things that we have inherited from other people – like our parents.  Things like “I’ll never make enough money too” or “There’s never enough to go around” or even better “I will never have enough”.  What do you think the Universe hears?  The only job the Universe has is to GIVE.  However, it will give you what you put out there energetically and what you say.  Your words and thoughts have true power so when you say “No, I don’t want anyone new to walk into my life” the Universe hears that and says “OK! she does not want anyone new to talk too” and you will stay lonely.

I don’t want anyone to push the gifts that are RIGHTFULLY YOURS away.  You need to think about what your saying and listen to the words that come out of your mouth – especially if they are unconscious.  If you are not getting opportunities, abundance, wealth, new paths to be successful and happy – chances are you may be saying things like my friend was saying – which is a big, fat NO!

In the next couple of posts, I am going to talk about how to get yourself out of this predicament AND I have also cooked up something special – a couple of webinars complete with free worksheets on how to have more wealth and abundance in your life. Look for that later on this week.  In the meantime your assignment is this:  Really listen to where you are saying No too in your life and each time you say it – write down when you said it and what you said No too.  It can be something as easy as “Do you want to go to lunch?  No.  Do you want to meet my new friend? No.  Those are both opportunities that you just said a big fat No too.  It does not matter how small the perceived opportunity is. Maybe you go to lunch with someone new and you form a friendship that really turns into something wonderful and prosperous.

Let me know what you are saying No too and I will soon give you ways to turn that around to a a “HELL YES!  Abundance and wealth – here we come!”

To Your Most Abundant Life Ever!


She has a Bugatti but drives it like a Honda…

There is someone I know, very well, who has something amazing in her possession but she


has no idea what it really is or what to do with it.  She is a wonderful person who has a successful business, but she could have such a MUCH BIGGER impact than she has – but doesn’t.  What is holding her back?  Her fears.

You see all her life she has tried to change, tried to do better and bigger things.  But it seems like every time she steps out, she either pulls back (Self-sabotage) OR she has something come up that stops her in her tracks (Overwhelm or difficulty standing in her power).  This is common, because I have spoken to many women who do exactly what she does – they know they are not fulfilling their destiny but they can’t figure out the WHAT that is stopping them.

The problem in a nutshell is that you and I are hard-wired to past traumas that make it very difficult to be successful, because these traumas are in our deep subconscious.  Let’s say you have a goal that you really want to attain, yet every time you think of that goal – you don’t think of roses and happiness.  You think of the things that have stopped you in the past i.e. Shame, loss, not finishing what you started or even worse – failing completely.  If you have tried to be successful in the past and have had no customers and no one buy your programs, chances are that no matter what you say to yourself CONSCIOUSLY, it will haunt you SUBCONSCIOUSLY.  Your subconscious controls you and represents 98% of what you do and the thoughts you have.

I have been working on my mindset for the last four years but I would have to say it is always a work in progress.  There is always a new lesson to learn or I discover a new AH-HA about why I do some of the things I do.

I would sum it up to you this way. The successful woman I know owns a BUGATTI!  Yes, a gorgeous Bugatti that is fast as hell and can do anything you ask of it.  It is literally programmed to go fast, be sleek and not to mention it stands out in a crowd in a way that we all dream of owning.  YET – she drives it like a Honda.  Now nothing against Honda’s.  I own one and as a family we have owned Honda’s for years.  However – there is NO COMPARISON BETWEEN A BUGATTI AND A HONDA!  One is a super hot sports car that is pricey for a very good reason – it’s fast and crowds gather around it like nobody’s business. Not everyone owns a Bugatti.  But many, many people own Honda’s.  I see tons of them every day.  They are low to moderately priced, easy to attain and are good, stable cars. What they are not – is a sleek race car like a Bugatti.

So I ask you this – If you had a Bugatti how would you drive it?  Most people would drive it like it’s meant to be driven – fast, with a purpose and getting a ton of looks as you go by. Instant Rock Star Status has been achieved.  You would NOT drive it like a Honda on your way to work – perhaps tail gaiting other cars, stopping hard on your brakes and driving it “the speed limit”.  Don’t you think if bought a Bugatti you would learn how to drive it correctly and assertively?

Here is what I want to leave you with.  It is VERY possible that you have a Bugatti in your garage.  Not a real Bugatti, but your Bugatti could be the amazing idea you have or how you want to impact the world.  What you want to do with your life could offer you instant Rock Star status as well as bring about an important change that should happen in the world.  But you may be acting as if you are driving a Honda – holding back, not showing up the way you need to and definitely not taking action and risks that would really pay off for you.  Which way are you feeling and acting on any given day?  How are you showing up for others or for your business daily?